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What is Asperger's syndrome?

What is Asperger's Syndrome?
If you have met one child with Asperger's, you have met one child with Asperger's. That's how difficult it is to describe this condition. But I will try.
Asperger Syndrome is a neurobiological disorder. AS has been recognized as a distinct medical condition in Europe for almost 60 years, but has only been included in the U.S. medical diagnostic manual since 1994.Individuals with AS exhibit serious deficiencies in social and communication skills. Their IQ's are typically in the normal to very superior range. They are usually educated in the mainstrream, but most require special education services. Because of their naivete, those with AS are often viewed as "odd" by their peers and are frequently a target for bullying and teasing.They want to fit in socially and have friends, but have a great deal of difficulty making effective social connections. Many of them are at risk for developing mood disorders, such as anxiety or depression, especially in adolescence.
Characteristics of Asperger Syndrome
Each person is different. An individual might have all or only some of the described behaviors to have a diagnosis of AS.
-Marked impairment in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviors such as: eye gaze, facial expression, body posture, and gestures to regulate social interaction.
-Extreme difficulty in developing age-appropriate peer relationships.
-Inflexible adherence to routines and perseveration.
-Fascination with maps, globes, and routes.-Superior rote memory.
-Preoccupation with a particular subject to the exclusion of all others.
-Difficulty judging personal space, motor clumsiness
-Sensitivity to the environment, loud noises, clothing and food textures, and odors.
-Speech and language skills impaired in the areas of semantics, pragmatics, and prosody (volume, intonation, inflection, and rhythm).
-Difficulty understanding others' feelings.
-Formal style of speaking; often called the "Little Professor" Syndrome.
-Extreme difficulty reading and /or interpreting social cues.
-Socially and emotionally inappropriate responses.
-Literal interpretation of language, difficulty comprehending implied meanings.
-Extensive vocabulary. Reading begins at an early age (hyperlexia).
-Stereotyped or repetitive mannerisms.
-Difficulty with "give and take" of conversation.


Friday, January 4, 2008

An Open Invitation

An Open Invitation:
With your help, I hope to build a large collection of profiles on individuals with Asperger's Syndrome.

My nephew was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome about one year ago. He is now four years old. I have made this website to better understand him and to help others better understand Asperger's Syndrome. I am hoping that this questionnaire will help with both! Thank-you all in advance for your help!!

If you or someone you love has autism or Asperger's syndrome, I'd like to hear from you. Please try to answer the following questions as accurately as you can. Either e-mail your responses to me at "derin417670@aol.com or post your responses under comments on this post and I'll make a new post about you or your loved one as soon as I get a chance.

1) Are you answering these questions for a loved one with Asperger's Syndrome? If so, what is your relationship with him or her? Please provide your name(s) and location(s) in as much detail as you feel comfortable with. I would love it if you could include a photo, also!!

2) Please define Asperger's as concisely as you can. No dictionaries please; I'm looking for your understanding of the word. What would you like the world to know about Asperger's?

3.) When were you or your loved one born? Diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome? Have there been any other diagnoses?

4) Please describe social skills of you or your loved one.

5.) Please describe linguistic or language skills.

6.) What sort of therapies have you or your loved one tried? Have they helped over time? If so, how? Please describe any medications and their effects as best you can recall.

7.) What are some of your or your loved one's biggest difficulties today?

8.) Have you or your loved one made any special achievements you'd like to mention?

9.) What have you learned from your experience with Asperger's? Have you formed a philosophy or taken away any life lessons?

10.) What has been the greatest challenge for you or your loved one? The greatest reward?

11.) Is there anything else you would like to add about your experiences with Asperger's?

Thank-you so much for your participation! Tell your friends about this site!! Colleen

Wednesday, January 2, 2008

Straight Talk from an Aspie

Some Extremely Reasonable Suggestions for "Typical" Parents, Family and Teachers on Behalf of Kids with Asperger Syndrome by Jennifer Mcllwee Myers (Aspie at Large)

1.) PLEASE don't try to make us "normal". We'd much rather be functional. It's hard to be functional when you have to spend all your time and energy focusing on making eye contact and not tapping your fee.

2.) PLEASE don't overprotect, indulge, or cosset us. We already have enough social problems without additionally learning to be spoiled and self-indulgent.

3.) DON'T teach us social skills according to how you wish the world was, or even how you think it is. Look carefully at what is really going on and teach us real world rules.

4.)DON'T talk and act as if your life would be perfect or soooo much easier if you had a "normal" child. We don't thrive on knowing that we are the children you didn't want.

5.)DON'T make the mistake of thinking that teaching us typical behaviors and successful masking means we are "cured". Please remember that the more typical our behavior seems, the harder we are working. What is natural, simple behavior to you is a constant effort for us..

6.) PLEASE don't punish us with rewards or reward us with punishments. For those of us wh find recess to be the most stressful part of school, any action that will keep us in from recess is one we will learn to repeat ad infinitum. Betting rewarded for good behavior with fashionable, but really itchy clothing will train us to NOT behave too well!

7.) If you assiduously train us to imitate and conform to other children's behavior, don't be shocked if we learn to curse, whine for popular toys, dress in ways you don't like, and eventually drink, smoke, and attempt to seek out sex as teenagers. Those "nice kids" you think so highly of do a lot of things youu don't know about. Or don't you remember high school?

8.) Please DO give us information about autism/Asperger's Syndrome early on at a level we can digest. We need to know what's going on and we will figure out that something is "wrong" with us whether you tell us or not.

9.) DON'T avoid a diagnosis or help for us because you are scared of us being labeled. Without that diagnosis and appropriate support, our teachers, family, and fellow students will give us plenty of labels and we might just believe them if we hear them often enough.

10.) DON'T force us to do things we can't do. A forced social situation won't teach us social skills any more than dumping us in the middle of the Pacific Ocean will teach us to swim.

11.) DON'T punish us for what other kids do. The fact that other kids tease and torture us for benign "autistic" or Asperger" behaviors doesn't mean WE need to change, it means THEY do. Needing to bounce or swing for the whole recess is not morally wrong; tormenting someone for having a neurological disability is.

12.) DON'T attempt to use humiliation or public embarrassment to "teach us a lesson". We get way too much of that from other people, and the only lesson learned is that we can't trust you, either.

13.) DO punish us (or give us "consequences") when it is necessary to do so - but make the connection between cause and effect very, very clear. We often need visual aids to understand how out behavior can cause an unwanted result for us!!!

14.) DON'T cut us too much slack when our behavior is potentially dangerous to us. For example, adolescent pre-stalking behavior should result in serious consequences. Not treating such behavior seriously when we are young can lead to problems involving law enforcement when we're older.

15.) DON'T trust untrained camp counselors, "typical" peers, or youth pastors to be able to deal with Asperger's Syndrome. Often their answers to our problems involve highly destructive phrases, like "try harder", "you could do it if you really wanted to", and "snap out of it".

16.) DON'T model one thing teach us another. If you yell or hit when you're angry, we will too. If you rage at us, don't be shocked at our "autistic" rages. DON'T lecture us about our stims while youu smoke, tap your foot, pick at your manicure and down your third double-latte today.

17.) DON'T require us to be wildly successful at something because your ego has been wounded by having a "flawed" child. We can't all be Temple Grandin. Remember, all honest work is noble, even if you can't brag about us to your friends.

18.)DO spend time with our siblings, even if you need to arrange for respite care to do so. Schedule something special for them without us along, even if it's just lunch at a fast-food joint once a week or so.

19.) DO ask for help for yourself as needed. Take advantage of respite care when you can. Get cognitive-behavioral counseling and/or medication when you are depressed. Don't try to do it all alone. Remember it is much more important that you get a nap and a nourishing meal than that we have a clean house.

20.) Most important: please, please please DON'T wait until we're "cured" or "recovered" to love and accept us. You could miss our whole lives that way.